Daily Musings

Monday, January 29, 2007

Adoption

Adoption

I have always wondered why adoption is viewed with so much suspicion. There are so many kids in this world who are deprived of love. They have either lost their parents or have been abandoned by them. For no fault of theirs they have been subjected to a difficult life. As soon as the word adoption is whispered people look at you with sympathy. The pre-conceived notion is that you want to adopt because you can’t have kids and hence are forced to adopt. Its not easy to get familiar with the idea that one might want to adopt just so that they could give at least 1 kid a happy, decent life.
However there are so many couples that can’t have kids. But these people would rather undergo expensive treatments and explore other options then adopt a kid. The reason given to me is that blood is thicker than water. The love that you feel for your own kid cannot be matched. Where I don’t deny this fact its beyond me to understand how you cant fall in love with a tiny bundle of joy. The other reasons given to me where that one can’t be sure of the kid’s genes, that its future behavior will depend on his/ her ancestry. Again I agree with the same, but also I know that an individuals behavior is more dependent on his/ her upbringing than his genes.
A serious worry could be that once the kid finds out that he is adopted he might be confused but knowing that his adopted parents love him as much as his own would have should alleviate his confusion and help him adjust. Our society needs good educated well-balanced citizens but there are a lot of kids out there who are deprived and will not be able to become one. What if each one of us decided to take the responsibility of 1 kid? Wont this be a happier world?